It’s been a while. A controversial space, a spontaneous dump of random thoughts (unspoken) around gender debates and relationships seems a good place to start.
It’s about mentality
In most discussions people are telling others what to think. Better to be sceptical, the embryo of an enquiring mind. We can eliminate much of the bullshit by focusing on how we think and not following like sheep.
Gender
The future is man and woman, not a power struggle. Without man and without woman there is no future. My advice to kids is to be brave and assert your differences (and values).
As a man I see too much of boy masculinity beaten down. Never underestimate woman attraction to a strong man for several real reasons.
Relationships
Opposites can attract in personality but not in different values. You need to share common values. No difference in a friend circle where kids struggle early on building their community of friends with shared values.
Set boundaries to get to know other’s intentions early on.
I don’t have a son, but I’m sure a bit of advice that I would give is that a woman who can be bought is not worth anything. For my daughter, become independent so that you always free to choose.
Those who cheat are mostly not seeking sex, rather satisfaction of some other basic need. Sex is a consequence. In failed relationships many are trapped in the victim mindset instead of learning where they failed. Knowing and working on own shortcomings is key not to repeat the failure in next relationships.
Grow
We tend to grow more in discomfort than in comfort, a good reason for couples to work through conflicts. Life is meant to have bumps in the road, that’s how we learn. We can choose to either embrace relationship hurdles and learn from them or blame our partners and drift apart.
The original photo put at the end. Those who know me would not be offended. I call a spade a spade, in a constructive manner; never hurtful.
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