Personality disorders are increasing, their impacts in relationships, business and politics are profound.
I wish to have been more proficient in psychology earlier on. To have had an ability to recognize personality disorders before being boxed in.
Mathematics was a compulsory school subject. I would support the same emphasis in psychology given the escalating percentages of mental illnesses. Children today are more vulnerable to mental illness, yet parents are not educated to recognize this, some in denial and others have no competence to deal with it.
The biggest negative impacts in my life have been that of narcissistic persons; they talk a charming talk. My personality is to trust first and adjust later if needed; and as a result, I have learned the narcissistic web cannot be easily escaped.
Most of my recent disappointments and business disruptions were rooted in people where I had not early on identified their personality disorders. This is especially true for persons of my generation where mental illness was poorly understood, and children had to build their own defence mechanisms to cope. Years later, defensive mechanisms to insecurities are deeply rooted in subconscious habits; and they appear on the outside to be self-confident.
My tell signs are persons who always see the problem on the outside, they blame others. Those who have no self-reflection.
It is an acceptable practice in job interviews to conduct tests that establish personality types, traits, and behaviours of applicants. My recommendation to business is to refine these tests to better map mentality and identify personality disorders.
In recent diplomatic encounters, personality disorders are screaming out. Other than the dog loyalty of some voters, most educated voters would benefit from a public declaration of personality profile for all running delegates. This should be compulsory in every election. It certainly would get many to vote differently.
In corporate I was ignorant to personality disorders; I was fortunate to be surrounded with great people. In smaller entrepreneurial ventures, they screamed out at me, but I did not recognize them. Today I am smarter in this. My bad experiences are the school fees I paid, allowing me to support others without them having to incur the same costly mistakes.
In coaching I touch personal struggles. I recommend in the case of narcissistic partners to seek professional guidance; at least to validate the believed personality disorder. My follow up of their outcomes, most (80/20) had to leave the relationship. It is rare to reverse narcissism; to them the problem is on the outside.
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