Self-reflection, a deep understanding of self, knowledge of what is proper and a genuine desire to transform are all prerequisites to breaking with bad habits.  First, we need to know what is not proper, and then we need to break with habits that are not proper.  My own self-discovery is that discipline alone could not…

I work with many aspiring leaders, and high potential leaders identified for development in their companies. My approach is different, I practice empathic listening and give honest feedback, but in a compassionate manner that inspires change.  At least that is my goal, and that is what I sincerely strive for. Many that I engage with…

A leadership question that I’ve been confronted with on many occasions is whether great leaders are born leaders, or whether leadership can be learned? My answer is both.  Born leaders, I doubt very much that it’s genetic, rather the impact of those early years of childhood.  Those first 6 or 7 years when we are…

Numerous teachers and sports coaches say their no.1 obstacle has become parent interference.  Parents threaten in the presence of their children, creating an outcome where their children do not respect their teachers. Children are being conditioned to “run” to their parents to solve their disputes.  Teachers and coaches believe a concoction of new money and…

I do believe that it is important to be forthright, but to communicate the message with compassion.  The intention is to help and not to hurt.  When you want to help people, you tell them the truth.  You just help yourself when you tell them what they want to hear. I am not politically biased,…

Today the proximity of reward, that what we want, is mostly “close”. The need to work hard, to struggle, and be disciplined, is today less than it was in the past. The social impacts of this are likely the reason for the recent focus on Dopamine. You do not need a medical background to understand…

Tennis Coaching. I like to observe human behaviour.  I learn from it.  I see parents taking their children to coaching lessons.  Parents carrying the bags of their children.  Then I observe the same parents yelling at their kids and behaving like they want them to be the best. Champions.  What a contradiction.  Treating your kids…

I have more wisdom, more learning and better health now than ever before. BUT, important is what others say about you and not what you say about yourself. To me age is just a number, but when I noticed that more and more people started thinking that I was older, it was time to change…

I am sometimes asked if I have any struggles, and how I deal with them.  Off course we all have struggles, I have many, but what defines us is not the struggles, but how we deal with them.  So, what are one of my struggles? Early on I learned that an important element of happiness…