Every venture has its own rewarding experiences.  My current role in leadership mentoring gives me the opportunity to experience life changing appreciation from those that I interact with.  Let me share 1 such outcome that will help illustrate.  One area of my work is an in-depth understanding of PROACTIVENESS. When people truly understand and practice…

I guess the gentleman was around 40 years and 100 kilos.  We were at the gym.  In a rare moment that he was off his phone I asked “why are you exercising”? To lose weight he said.  I said he should start by leaving his phone in the locker.  2 days later a personal trainer…

I was born, educated and worked many years in a country with limited social benefits, and in particular no State pension fund.  Growing up in such an environment meant that I was hard wired to take responsibility for myself, not to rely on the State for my old age.  Pension was never a milestone that…

Self-reflection, a deep understanding of self, knowledge of what is proper and a genuine desire to transform are all prerequisites to breaking with bad habits.  First, we need to know what is not proper, and then we need to break with habits that are not proper.  My own self-discovery is that discipline alone could not…

I work with many aspiring leaders, and high potential leaders identified for development in their companies. My approach is different, I practice empathic listening and give honest feedback, but in a compassionate manner that inspires change.  At least that is my goal, and that is what I sincerely strive for. Many that I engage with…

A leadership question that I’ve been confronted with on many occasions is whether great leaders are born leaders, or whether leadership can be learned? My answer is both.  Born leaders, I doubt very much that it’s genetic, rather the impact of those early years of childhood.  Those first 6 or 7 years when we are…

Numerous teachers and sports coaches say their no.1 obstacle has become parent interference.  Parents threaten in the presence of their children, creating an outcome where their children do not respect their teachers. Children are being conditioned to “run” to their parents to solve their disputes.  Teachers and coaches believe a concoction of new money and…

I do believe that it is important to be forthright, but to communicate the message with compassion.  The intention is to help and not to hurt.  When you want to help people, you tell them the truth.  You just help yourself when you tell them what they want to hear. I am not politically biased,…

Today the proximity of reward, that what we want, is mostly “close”. The need to work hard, to struggle, and be disciplined, is today less than it was in the past. The social impacts of this are likely the reason for the recent focus on Dopamine. You do not need a medical background to understand…

Tennis Coaching. I like to observe human behaviour.  I learn from it.  I see parents taking their children to coaching lessons.  Parents carrying the bags of their children.  Then I observe the same parents yelling at their kids and behaving like they want them to be the best. Champions.  What a contradiction.  Treating your kids…